Sunday, June 10, 2007
What are some ways to resolve conflicts when in a relationship?
Communicate openly. You should freely express your views and feelings especially when you are upset about certain things. Your partner should also be encouraged to do so. At the same time, you must be willing to hear each other out and not make assumptions. The willingness and commitment to confront issues can prevent problems from getting out of hand.
Plan for a convenient time to hash out your differences. Your partner will be more willing to work out the differences with you when he or she has a say about the timing of the discussion. Rushing into a discussion simply because you feel you could not wait and discounting your partner's time constraint would likely worsen matters
Do not bring the past into a current discussion. Focus on the present issue. When you have both agreed to discuss an issue, make sure that you stay focused. Often couples tend to bring up past issues, which make it impossible to come to a resolution. Keep reminding yourself that the purpose of the discussion is to find a solution to the present issue.
Apologise when you make mistakes. To admit and accept your mistakes requires openness and courage. Your partner is more likely to appreciate such qualities and trust you more. Conversely, blaming and denying will only frustrate your partner and adversely affect the relationship.
Take a timeout before things get too heated. If you feel the anger level of either of you is rising, take a 15 minute timeout to gain a new perspective.
Thrash out issues privately. Make an agreement with your partner early on to thrash out any disagreement in a private manner. This is to avoid dragging others into your fights and putting each other on a defensive position.
Mind your words. Words have powerful impact on relationship. Think and choose your words carefully particularly when you are angry because words of anger can inflict hurt that lingers for a long time and are not easily forgotten. This is why it is important that you postpone discussing problems about the relationship when either of you is angry.
Learn to compromise. It is healthier, where possible, to have a win-win situation and one of the keys to this is through compromising. Find a middle ground, where possible on both your part. One way of doing this is for each partner to be more willing to come up with alternative solutions or modifications so as to have a greater possibility of striking a middle ground.
Accept and respect differences. There will be times that even after many discussions, you still cannot agree on something. In those instances it is wiser to agree to disagree instead of getting upset with the differences.
When you are in a middle of a disagreement, remind yourself of the importance of your partner in your life. This does not mean that you compromise your self-respect or bend over backwards for your partner. It means to keep the value of this person in your mind during an argument. This will more likely prevent you from saying or doing something which you might regret later.
Learn to forgive and let bygones be bygones. When an issue has been thrashed out and your partner has accepted his or her responsibility, it is important to learn to let go and not dig it up again.
@ 2:16 PM
Communicate openly. You should freely express your views and feelings especially when you are upset about certain things. Your partner should also be encouraged to do so. At the same time, you must be willing to hear each other out and not make assumptions. The willingness and commitment to confront issues can prevent problems from getting out of hand.
Plan for a convenient time to hash out your differences. Your partner will be more willing to work out the differences with you when he or she has a say about the timing of the discussion. Rushing into a discussion simply because you feel you could not wait and discounting your partner's time constraint would likely worsen matters
Do not bring the past into a current discussion. Focus on the present issue. When you have both agreed to discuss an issue, make sure that you stay focused. Often couples tend to bring up past issues, which make it impossible to come to a resolution. Keep reminding yourself that the purpose of the discussion is to find a solution to the present issue.
Apologise when you make mistakes. To admit and accept your mistakes requires openness and courage. Your partner is more likely to appreciate such qualities and trust you more. Conversely, blaming and denying will only frustrate your partner and adversely affect the relationship.
Take a timeout before things get too heated. If you feel the anger level of either of you is rising, take a 15 minute timeout to gain a new perspective.
Thrash out issues privately. Make an agreement with your partner early on to thrash out any disagreement in a private manner. This is to avoid dragging others into your fights and putting each other on a defensive position.
Mind your words. Words have powerful impact on relationship. Think and choose your words carefully particularly when you are angry because words of anger can inflict hurt that lingers for a long time and are not easily forgotten. This is why it is important that you postpone discussing problems about the relationship when either of you is angry.
Learn to compromise. It is healthier, where possible, to have a win-win situation and one of the keys to this is through compromising. Find a middle ground, where possible on both your part. One way of doing this is for each partner to be more willing to come up with alternative solutions or modifications so as to have a greater possibility of striking a middle ground.
Accept and respect differences. There will be times that even after many discussions, you still cannot agree on something. In those instances it is wiser to agree to disagree instead of getting upset with the differences.
When you are in a middle of a disagreement, remind yourself of the importance of your partner in your life. This does not mean that you compromise your self-respect or bend over backwards for your partner. It means to keep the value of this person in your mind during an argument. This will more likely prevent you from saying or doing something which you might regret later.
Learn to forgive and let bygones be bygones. When an issue has been thrashed out and your partner has accepted his or her responsibility, it is important to learn to let go and not dig it up again.
@ 2:16 PM
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